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Colorblind Justice's avatar

Very sorry for your loss, Sally, and thank you for speaking life into Hal's beautiful obituary. Sincere condolences to you and all members of your wonderful family.

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, I appreciate that.

Rhonda's avatar

This is a beautiful delivery of devastating news. Sally, I'm so sorry for the loss of Hal and sending love to you and yours. Key West is (still) a better place because of you both. Love, Rhonda.

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, Rhonda. I’ll be delivering his ashes there at some point. xoxo

Andrea S's avatar

Sally, I am so very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful thing to be remembered with so much love.

Steven Mudd's avatar

So sorry to hear about your loss. I had my battle with cancer down here in Mexico Hospital, in San José, just two years ago, and I'm still recovering. You might know that I am stuck now in paradise. Anyway, the photos and bio, all that you wrote was deeply touching, and I cannot imagine how difficult it has been for you. I pray that your joy returns soon. Much love, your friend from Alajuela, Steve

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, Steve! I guess there are worse places to be stuck, eh? 🩷🩷🩷

Steven Mudd's avatar

those were my thoughts exactly, when I was able to look out the windows of Mexico Hospital, in San José. I spent over 6 weeks there, and when they finally turned me out, I still had the front of my throat open. It took 4 months to finally close on it's own. I'm a product of my environment though, being raised in Kentucky, I still think about smoking, and wish I had a pipe. I wouldn't even know where to find such things down here. Ha Ha. Of course, I'm a neck-breather now, but if I ever make it back to Ky., a pipe and some borkum riff will be the first thing I look for.

Sally Oh's avatar

Wow, that is an ordeal. I'm so sorry, cancer is a thief. Have you considered ivermectin/fenbendazole to keep it away? I know it helped Hal and I read lots of success stories. It's cheap, probably over the counter there. I take it 3-4 days a week to ward it off... I'm also addicted to nicotine gum. Nicotine is actually good for us (another big pharma lie), it's all the gov-mandated chemicals in tobacco products that cause harm. Desperately seeking an organic option but so far, can't find anything. Thinking about getting organic tobacco seeds and growing my own, making a tincture... Something else on my to do list. Sending you love and healing energy, Steven. We'll have lunch when you do make it back. Keep me posted.

Michael Murphy's avatar

Thanks for so openly sharing everything! Having lost my Laura to cancer last year, I have learned how important it is to express how important such a loss really is on your life, however difficult it is to be so open about it. I learned a lot about myself in sharing all of the wonderful times we had and the happiness she brought into my life. It really has helped me understand my life better by removing that emotional curtain and being completely honest about how much an impact it really is. I think it's impossible to understand without having had the experience. It helped me to understand that I was and am capable of having such love in my life. I have enjoyed knowing you, Hal and your kids and was sad to hear of Hal's passing. Though I did not know either if you all that well, both of you impressed me and my dearest Laura and we enjoyed the times we got to share together. You are a wonderful angel dear Sally. All the best to you and your family and if you every need someone to listen, or a shoulder to cry on...

Sally Oh's avatar

Oh my gosh, I’m experiencing all the same things. Hal loved me so much, I was blessed by that. We felt the same about you and Laura, and always enjoyed your company, too. I saw a picture on your timeline overlooking San Jose. Awesome view, especially anytime there’s even the slightest cause for fireworks!! xoxo

Ashley May's avatar

The what if’s will eat us alive. Take care of your self and I pray you find peace of mind. He’s on the other side in the eternal glory. What a wonder it must be for him! 🙏🕊️

Sally Oh's avatar

That thought does bring me a good measure of peace.

molly's avatar

Love this Sally!

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you. Took me forever to write…

Gordon S Watson's avatar

this is a wonderful piece of writing, on its own

What a wonderful testimony ... what a man.

God Bless you Sally

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, Gordon.

Heidi Jo Brown Arimes's avatar

Hi Sally. I was dismayed and very sad to read you lost your husband, Hal. My heartfelt prayers and condolences for your loss. Thank you for sharing your grief and story. I hope you know all the love, prayers, and prayers that are being sent your way. Many blessings to you and yours in this painful time of life. 🙏❤️

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, Heidi. Very sad days around here but I'm walking thru it and I know the prayers and loving energy being sent my way are holding me up. Blessings abound.

JoAnn's avatar

That was a beautiful tribute Sally! ❤️

Sally Oh's avatar

Thank you, JoAnn.